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Finding Peace in the midst of an emotional storm

Finding peace is not always easy, especially when you have a million thoughts racing through your mind.  However, there are ways to help you to re-center and create better habits to assist you in finding your peace easier in the future.

Peace Mittle is here to help us find our peace and is going to share some tips that can help you. The first thing she wants you to know is that you are not alone. Many people have a hard time quieting those pesky inner voices long enough to find a peaceful solution to their troubles.

Feelings of Anxiety, being overwhelmed, scared, angry, frustrated and confused all popping into our minds and creating a jumble of thoughts and emotions so overpowering that we can become immobilized. There isn’t a quick fix or an instant peacemaker but, there are ways to help you learn some better habits that will lead to calming the emotional storm going on inside.

Here are some steps Peace Mittle has for you to try.

1.)  Breathe and get into the “Now” – Find a quiet place to sit, Breathe in and out slowly. Now look around you and choose an object, it can be anything. Then, focus only on that object ask yourself questions about it, where did it come from? Was it a gift? Do I like this object? Any question will work. If your mind starts to wander away from that object, calmly bring it back to the object. Try doing this for at least a few minutes any time your thoughts start to become overwhelming.

2.)  Identify what you are feeling. – Are you sad, angry, frustrated, overwhelmed? Choose the feeling that best defines your feeling at that moment. Now accept this feeling by letting yourself feel. Because, trying to push the feelings away will only intensify them. Instead, accept that you are overwhelmed and that is perfectly ok. It may be an uncomfortable feeling but that is fine. Above all, allow yourself to feel awkward for a moment and just keep breathing slowly in and out.

3.)  Ask yourself what you would rather feel about the situation. – Maybe you’d rather feel impatient about the situation or even angry. Whatever you’d rather feel is ok. Let this new feeling come and replace the old one. Before long you will have learned that you can control your emotions. However, if the emotion you have chosen is still not where you want to be, repeat this step using the new emotion you chose instead, until you get to a feeling that is more acceptable to you.

4.)  Remind yourself that the only approval you need is from yourself. – To stay peaceful, you need to understand that trying to please everyone else is an uphill battle. It causes many unwanted emotions to pop up, most of which are self-defeating. Afterall, those other voices will just continue to pop into your mind and try to tell you how disappointing you are. Let them go and adopt your own personal set of approval goals. Be generous with yourself and set your boundaries and goals at a reasonable level. Then you can move those goals up as you grow more peaceful with yourself.

5.)  Take action, do one thing that will move you towards a more peaceful solution. – Nothing is done all at once, it takes many steps to reach any goal we may have. If you have been feeling overwhelmed, you may want to write a list of all the things you’d need to accomplish. Next choose one of those things you can do right now and do it. Chip away at the list one small step at a time. Remember it takes time to overcome and every step is moving you into the right direction.

6.)  Self-approval and recognition are very important. – Celebrating your accomplishments, no matter how small, is key to finding peace with yourself. Find some positive affirmations to help remind you of the wonderful person you are. In addition to that you can write your own positive statements about yourself and spend time each day reading your list and adding new ones.

 

Peace Mittle hopes this will help you begin the
journey to finding your peace, one step at a time.

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Valentine’s day and crazy emotions | How to cope


Valentine’s day and crazy emotions may be very overwhelming. Some of us dread this holiday meant to highlight love and appreciation. With all the emphasis on people with loving friends, family and relations everywhere it may overwhelm those of us who don’t feel we have that in our life. This can make us feel quite sad and lonely. This is a good time to take a different view of the holiday. How can we do this? Here is a story of how Hurt Mittle turned his Valentine’s day around.

Hurt Mittle was dreading Valentine’s day because he was the new kid and was sure that he wouldn’t get any Valentine’s day cards this year. He would see other kids excited and laughing as they talked about all the Valentine’s they expected. All the stores had lots of great cards, chocolates and candies. There were posters all over the school for the upcoming Valentine’s day dance. Everywhere he looked he saw Valentine promotions, and he grew more depressed as the day drew closer. He didn’t like feeling so left out and alone, but what could he do?

As he walked home from school that day, he saw Empathy Mittle chasing a big red paper heart. It was drifting down the street when he suddenly tripped and his books scattered all over the sidewalk. When Empathy Mittle saw this happen she stopped chasing the heart and ran over to see if he was ok. She was very kind and helped him pick up his books. He thanked her then asked her about the paper heart she was chasing. She shrugged and told him it was ok and that she was just glad he wasn’t hurt. He was grateful for her help and told her he would help her find her paper heart.

They began looking up and down the street when Hurt Mittle laughed and pointed to a nearby tree. The paper heart had drifted up into the tree and was just dangling between the branches. They walked over to the tree and then Hurt Mittle climbed up it and retrieved the paper heart then gave it back to Empathy Mittle. It felt good to be able to repay Empathy Mittles kindness and now he didn’t feel quite as lonely as he had before. That is when he got a great idea of how he could turn Valentine’s day around for himself.

He got home and got right to work on his idea. He had realized that there were a lot of people who had shown him a kindness since he first moved here. Even if they were small ones, like showing him where his next class was, inviting him to sit by them at lunch or even just a kind smile.

First, he cut out a bunch of red hearts from construction paper. On the front of each heart he wrote someone’s name, on the back, he wrote a thank you to them. He added a piece of string to hang them with. He was already feeling wonderful and went to sleep with a big smile on his face.

The next morning, he left for school early with his precious hearts and took them to the school then hung each one of them on the small tree by the front of the door.  You see Hurt Mittle had decided he could make Valentines day special by showing his gratitude to others instead of just wallowing in his left-out feelings. His Valentines tree was a huge success and by the end of the week he noted that others had added their own hearts to the tree, and many had his name on them. It was the best Valentine’s Day he had ever had!

Being grateful is a wonderful tool when we are feeling low, unappreciated or sad. It helps us to remember we are not alone and that even in low times we have much be thankful for. What are you thankful for during this holiday of love and appreciation?

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Empathy and Sympathy – What a Difference

Empathy

em•pa•thy

noun \ (ĕm′pə-thē)

Empathy: The action of understanding, being aware of, being sensitive to, and vicariously experiencing the feelings, thoughts and experience of another. Either of the past or present without having the feelings, thoughts, and experience fully communicated in an objectively explicit manner.

Empathy loves to help people understand more about who she is. Many get her confused with her cousin Sympathy, who is just as lovely as Empathy, but they are very different. 

For example Sympathy might feel bad for someone, but doesn’t have a personal connection to what that person is feeling. She only knows she wouldn’t want to be in that person’s shoes. While Empathy not only feels badly but also has a personal understanding of what the person is feeling and going through and can easily put herself in their shoes. 

Sympathy is more about what she is feeling about the situation and Empathy is more about what the other is feeling or going through. 

Now that may make it seem like Sympathy is selfish but that really isn’t the case at all. Sympathy may not want to see another in distress and feels sad about it, just as Empathy does, it’s just that Sympathy has never had a similar situation happen to her or doesn’t have that full connection of actually understanding and feeling the other person’s woes.

Empathy really hopes this helps to clear up, how she interprets, the differences between herself and her cousin Sympathy. She loves her cousin and knows what it feels like to have people mistake you for someone else. 

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Emotions are Important – Please don’t hide your Mittles

Many of us were taught to hide our emotions in various ways. Simple phrases we hear may add to us feeling we should not feel a certain way.

Sad “Big boys don’t cry.” | “You’re such a crybaby.” | “You’re too sensitive.”

Angry “Ladies do not get angry.” | “Don’t raise your voice.” | “Just chill out.”

Scared “You’re such a pansy.” | “What a wimp.” | “You big chicken.”

Hurt “Oh, you think you have it bad.” | “You’re so dramatic.” | “What’s the big deal.”

Worry “Don’t be such a worrywart.” | “You think too much.” | “Life’s too short to worry.”

Anxiety “It’s all in your head.” | “Just let it go.” | “It could be worse.”

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These are just a few things the Mittles hear which make some of them try to hide. Of course the Mittles know not all those statements are always bad but when people say them over and over it is easier for the Mittles to just hide and not show their specific emotion.

Hiding emotions really is not healthy and the Mittles really are not happy having to hide all the time so they begin to look for a way out and often the way can be very damaging.

For example: Angry Mittle was trying so hard to hide his anger at Happy Mittle, for being so upbeat all the time, that eventually he wound up roaring and yelling at Scared Mittle who had simply been hiding behind a tree minding his own business. However, if Angry Mittle had just accepted his anger and told Happy Mittle how he was feeling perhaps they could of worked out a compromise that would benefit both of them. Instead by trying to hide his feelings Angry Mittle became more angry until he couldn’t hold it in any more and wound up hurting someone who had nothing to do with the situation.

Angry Mittle may not have reacted in the best manner but he is still a very important emotional monster. For instance, he teaches us what our personal boundaries are. Anger also helps us to get our needs met and it can energize us to get things done. All of our emotional monsters are very important and are here to help us so please don’t hide the Mittles. Let them express how they feel so we can all learn and grow from what they are trying to tell us.

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How do our emotions affect our learning

Learning can be hard even on our best days. But, did you know that your emotions play a big part in your ability to learn? This is what he wants share with you…

All emotions are important to us, they can help us with focusing, problem solving and learning in general. 

However, if emotions like anger, frustration, sadness, fear and anxiety are taking over our present state of mind it makes it extremely hard to concentrate and remember what we are to learn. Even boredom, extreme excitement or feeling incredibly happy can affect what we are able to learn at that time.

Bored Mittle understands how his main emotion made school so hard for him. Math class was so boring that Bored Mittles mind kept wandering and he did not do well on exams. He found it hard to focus and learn the lessons due to his boredom. Even though he was definitely smart enough to ace the class. He simply needed more of a challenge to learn well.

Wise Mittle remembers a time when Sad Mittle was really having a tough time learning how to read. Each time she tried and would stumble a bit it would make her feel even more sad. Each mistake she made left her feeling more like she could never learn, and it was a hopeless cause. So now her the focus was on her feelings and not on her lessons.

What helped Bored Mittle and Sad Mittle overcome this? Wise Mittle saw that their emotions were in the way of them learning and recognized their individual struggles. He then taught them about their emotions and how they affect the ways in which we learn. He also taught them the importance of finding balance with how they were feeling by playing emotion games with them.

Wise Mittle knew how much Bored Mittle loved science. So, he explained to him how important math is to learn in order to become a great scientist someday. He then challenged Bored Mittle to pretend he was in big science lab. His goal was to learn how to use math to finish his secret cure for boredom. This helped Bored Mittle to refocus his attention in class. It not only challenged him, but it gave him more of a purpose to learn the math step by step.

For Sad Mittle they played a game with memory cards of all the different emotions. On one side were the pictures and on the other were the words. They started with the picture side and talked about how each emotion she matched up might influence her learning. She had so much fun that when they turned the cards to the words side, she could read them easily.

Now of course Wise Mittle understands it’s not always as easy to help overcome the roadblocks of emotions when learning. But he also knows that learning about our emotions can improve how we learn and react to challenges in life.


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Negative Emotions: Why no emotion is actually bad

Negative Emotions: Why no emotion is actually bad is something the Mittles are very passionate about. Each one has a very important role to play to keep us healthy. It is not the emotion that is negative but how we deal with them can be.

warning-system-mittlesWe need to accept all of our emotions and take the time to listen, they are trying to tell us something important. Each emotion we have is like a warning signal. Something happens and our emotional Mittle pops out to to alert us to the situation. If we treat an emotion like it is bad then we tend to try and avoid that emotion. Now we are left with a broken warning signal.

For example: We label Scared Mittle as a negative emotion. But what happens when we avoid or hide feeling scared? We then might try to bring out Brave Mittle. He is all ready to take action but he is out at the wrong time. He jumps in to handle the problem and accidentally hurts someone. We may of avoided that if we had listened to Scared Mittle and accepted her warning. Instead we tried to hide what we felt were Negative Emotions.

The Mittles are not saying that the correct emotion always comes forward when needed. For example, sometimes Angry Mittle or Jealous Mittle may pop up when there is no need for them. However, if we accept that all emotions are good we will be a better judge of when certain emotions should come forward and we can react better. Feeling certain emotions is not always going to be comfortable. But it’s not possible or healthy to always avoid them.

So next time one of your emotional Mittles comes forward take a moment to listen. Ask yourself questions about why that particular emotion is out. Then you will learn more about what that Mittle emotion is trying to tell you. Understanding more about why the emotion is there can help you react properly. Learning how to cope with them and accept them is the key to having a healthy warning system of fabulous Mittles.

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Mindfulness: How being mindful helps us deal with emotions

Mindfulness can be a great tool when we are dealing with our emotions. Especially when those emotions are strong and uncomfortable. Why does mindfulness help? Being mindful helps us to calm down, accept the emotion for the warning it is and then let it go. Once we accept the emotion for what it is actually trying to show us it is easier to let go and move on.

Our Anxious Mittle understands that mindfulness is when we take the time to only think about our present. We become more focused and relaxed when we practice mindfulness. This will give us time we need to reflect in a calmer manner about what is happening. Once we are calmer, we can then think about the emotion we are feeling and make better decisions.

Peace Mittle taught Anxious Mittle to play the 5,4,3,2,1 game to help her focus and become mindful. It’s quite easy to play and it always helps Anxious Mittle calm down enough to focus. How do we play this game? Simple, when you are feeling a strong emotion stop and list these things.

5 things you can see – 4 things you can touch – 3 things you can hear – 2 things you can smell – 1 thing you can taste

You will find it easier to think about the emotion you feel and ask yourself the proper questions when you finish the game. Questions like: What am I feeling? Why do I feel this way? Is this feeling based on fact or just my thoughts?

Mindfulness is a great tool to help us confront and cope with our emotions. The Mittles hope you will learn to be more mindful before reacting to your emotional monsters.

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Holiday Depression – Why do I feel so blue when joy bells are ringing?

Holiday depression is well known to our little Sad Mittle. She tries so hard to get into the holiday spirit, but she struggles every year. She decks the halls, and sings yuletide carols yet she still slips right back into the blues. So, what is it about the holidays that triggers her blues?

The Holidays are a terribly busy time for most of us, with so many demands. We have more social events to plan for and go to. Our shopping habits increase, and we must manage the crowds, traffic and our spending. Holiday breaks and activities disrupt our normal routines causing added stressors. Even more uncomfortable emotions arise because some of us are unable to be with family or loved ones.

Our little Sad Mittle couldn’t help but feel it was more than just the blues and holiday depression though. She noticed that she would feel the deeper sadness creeping before the holidays arrived. Not to mention her blues didn’t seem to go away after soon the holidays are over. Instead she would remain in bluesville for months afterwards.

She thought it was just the holiday blues, when in fact she had been suffering this whole time from S.A.D. (seasonal affective disorder). So, you may be wondering what is the difference? S.A.D. if a type of depression that happens with the change of seasons. The symptoms normally start in the fall and grow through the winter however some people experience it through spring and summer. Sad Mittle did some research and found these sites to share with you that will explain more about S.A.D.

So,  it may be S.A.D. if you or a loved one experiences prolonged periods of depression around the same times every year. So please consult your doctor for a proper diagnosis. There are various treatments for it including light therapy. In the meantime, be sure to get plenty of sunlight, sleep and exercise.

Hugs & Love from all the Mittles of Mittlesville. We hope your holidays will be bright and happy.

 

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Happiness | What are some habits of happier people

Happiness is harder for some people to achieve than others but that doesn’t mean they can’t get there. One thing that helps us is when we realize happiness comes from inside. It really has little to do with having certain things.

Happy Mittle would love to have a brand-new easel for painting but he isn’t unhappy because he doesn’t have it.  One of his habits is to accept where he is and what he has instead of being upset or bitter about it.  Happy Mittle views this as a fun challenge to be creative and find new ways to set up his painting. Seeing things as a chance to grow and be creative, instead of a problem that blocks, is another habit that happy people like Happy Mittle have.

Happy people also are in the habit of being compassionate and loving. They understand that when they practice being nice it also brings joy into their own lives. They tend to see the best in people because of their loving nature. Empathy Mittle is another Mittle that is in the habit of being happy and seeing the good in things.

People who are typically happy are also in the habit of not judging others. They don’t compare people and don’t feel a need to put others down to make themselves feel better. This is a habit of admiration. They look at others with love and can often find qualities in others than many people would miss.

Another great habit of happy people is that they have realistic expectations. They don’t expect themselves or others to be perfect. There is a balance to expectations and happy people work on that balance. They still have expectations, but they are not so high they can’t be reached. However, they are also not so low that they just accept anything.

Happy Mittle also understands and accepts that not everyone can be happy all the time. He is just hoping that by sharing these few habits he practices it may help. Even if it just makes you smile a bit that would make him happy.

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